I'm sure all that read this can relate to having parents who sacrificed in
order that their children could achieve a better life. This story could
easily have been the story of my father and me. I remember the jar and the
words mentioned below. The similarities are amazing.
The Pickle Jar
The pickle jar as far back as I can remember sat on the floor beside the dresser
in my parents' bedroom. When he got ready for bed, Dad would empty his pockets
and toss his coins into the jar.
As a small boy I was always fascinated at the sounds the coins made as they were
dropped into the jar. They landed with a merry jingle when the jar was
almost empty. Then the tones gradually muted to a dull thud as the jar was
I used to squat on the floor in front of the jar and admire the copper and
silver circles that glinted like a pirate's treasure when the sun poured through
the bedroom window. When the jar was filled, Dad would sit at the kitchen table
and roll the coins before taking them to the bank.
Taking the coins to the bank was always a big production. Stacked neatly in a
small cardboard box, the coins were placed between Dad and me on the seat of his
Each and every time, as we drove to the bank, Dad would look at me hopefully.
"Those coins are going to keep you out of the textile mill, son. You're going to
do better than me. This old mill town's not going to hold you back."
Also, each and every time, as he slid the box of rolled coins across the counter
at the bank toward the cashier, he would grin proudly. "These are for my son's
college fund. He'll never work at the mill all his life like me."
We would always celebrate each deposit by stopping for an ice cream cone. I
always got chocolate. Dad always got vanilla. When the clerk at the ice
cream parlor handed Dad his change, he would show me the few coins nestled in
his palm. "When we get home, we'll start filling the jar again." He always let
me drop the first coins into the empty jar. As they rattled around with a brief,
happy jingle, we grinned at each other. "You'll get to college on pennies,
nickels, dimes and quarters," he said. "But you'll get there. I'll see to
The years passed, and I finished college and took a job in another town. Once,
while visiting my parents, I used the phone in their bedroom, and
noticed that the pickle jar was gone. It had served its purpose and had been
A lump rose in my throat as I stared at the spot beside the dresser where the
jar had always stood. My dad was a man of few words, and never lectured me
on the values of determination, perseverance, and faith.
The pickle jar had taught me all these virtues far more eloquently than the most
flowery of words could have done. When I married, I told my wife Susan about the
significant part the lowly pickle jar had played in my life as a boy. In my
mind, it defined, more than anything else, how much my dad had loved me.
No matter how rough things got at home, Dad continued to doggedly drop his coins
into the jar. Even the summer when Dad got laid off from the mill, and
Mama had to serve dried beans several times a week, not a single dime was taken
from the jar.
To the contrary, as Dad looked across the table at me, pouring catsup over my
beans to make them more palatable, he became more determined than ever to make a
way out for me. "When you finish college, Son," he told me, his eyes glistening,
"You'll never have to eat beans again - unless you want to."
The first Christmas after our daughter Jessica was born, we spent the holiday
with my parents. After dinner, Mom and Dad sat next to each other on the sofa,
taking turns cuddling their first grandchild. Jessica began to whimper
softly, and Susan took her from Dad's arms.
"She probably needs to be changed," she said, carrying the baby into my parents'
bedroom to diaper her. When Susan came back into the living room, there was a
strange mist in her eyes.
She handed Jessica back to Dad before taking my hand and leading me into the
room. "Look," she said softly, her eyes directing me to a spot on the floor
beside the dresser. To my amazement, there, as if it had never been removed,
stood the old pickle jar, the bottom already covered with coins. I walked over
to the pickle jar, dug down into my pocket, and pulled out a fistful of coins.
With a gamut of emotions choking me, I dropped the coins into the jar. I looked
up and saw that Dad, carrying Jessica, had slipped quietly into the room. Our
eyes locked, and I knew he was feeling the same emotions I felt.
Neither one of us could speak.
This truly touched my heart. I know it has yours as well. Sometimes we are so
busy adding up our troubles that we forget to count our blessings.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can
change a person's life, for better or for worse.
God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way.
Look for God in others.
The best and most beautiful things cannot be seen or touched -- they must be
felt with the heart ~ Helen Keller -
- Happy moments, praise God
- Difficult moments, seek God.
- Quiet moments, worship God.
- Painful moments, trust God.
- Every moment, thank God.
A true friend reaches for your hand and touches your